Girlfriend Wants To Date Others

What If My Girlfriend Wants To Date Others?

How to get her back when she's already looking for someone else

One of the hardest breakup scenarios to react to involves when your girlfriend wants to see other people.

Here, there's really no questioning her motives. She's flat out telling you that she's looking for someone better. For some reason she's unhappy with the relationship to the point where she feels the need to look elsewhere.

When your girlfriend mentions the possibility of seeing other people, there are a lot of possible scenarios causing this problem. Unfortunately for you, none of them are very good.

For one, she could already be seeing someone else. This is a worst case scenario, because announcing the breakup to you happens to be her last stop before running off with some other guy.

If this is the case, it's important to ask her outright if she's already dating somebody else. Maybe she'll come clean... maybe she won't. Either way, you'll need to identify the signs that your girlfriend has been cheating on you. It's important to know where you stand before doing anything else.

In a different scenario, your girlfriend might be thinking of seeing some other guy. There's a good chance she already has this guy in mind, and wants to clear the way by dumping you before moving forward with her potential new boyfriend.

Again, try to get her to come clean. If your girlfriend was honest enough to mention seeing other people to you (instead of coming up with a more bullshit excuse to break up), she might continue that honesty by telling you yes, there is someone else she has in mind.

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The worst thing to do is react badly here. The last thing you want to do is rage at your girlfriend for being actually honest with you about things.

Going off on your ex won't help get her back. More likely, it will drive her away.

And if she's thinking of dating some other guy? You'll be driving your girlfriend into his arms even faster than if you'd done nothing at all. It's always best not to let your emotions take over.

No matter what the case, when your girlfriend mentions dating other people she's already 90% gone. She's already been heavily considering what she wants to do, and all this planning has unfortunately been done without your knowledge.

The Good News About Her Wanting To See Other People

Alright, and now for some good news.

The very fact that your girlfriend did mention dating someone else, rather than keep you completely in the dark about it? It means something.

She could've been sneaky about it. She could've lied about it. She could've broken up with you for trumped-up reasons and keep you totally clueless about her desire to see other people.

But instead? She told you about it. And she told you about it for a very simple reason: she's not 100% completely positive it's what she really wants.

Outwardly, she's suggesting you both start dating other more compatible people. But on some inner level, she wants you to convince her she's wrong.

There's a small part of your girlfriend still screaming for you to make a change, for you to fix things, and for you to make her want you exclusively rather than have to start over with some other guy.

This is why your girlfriend wants to 'see other people'. It's not that she's testing you, it's that she's giving you the chance to correct things. What you really got here was a wakeup call.

What To Do She Wants To Start Dating Someone Else

When your girlfriend suggests looking for more compatible partners, it's a delicate situation. On one hand she's still hanging onto the idea of being with you... but on the other, she might be seriously considering a relationship with another guy.

The first thing to do is NOT panic. Once your girlfriend realizes you're upset, it ratifies her decision. She's getting a genuine reaction out of you, and this is what she's wanted all along.

Watching you squirm might not give her pleasure (unless she's some sick asshole), but it gives your girlfriend a taste of power. It lets her realize, possibly for the first time ever, that you might need her more than she actually needs you.

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Once again, this reduces your overall value in her eyes. Instead of seeing you as the indestructible pillar of strength you once were, now she sees a chink in your armor. Your girlfriend knows your weak spot: the thought of her being with another guy.

So now think about it: even if you ended up getting back together, how many times would she use this weapon against you over the course of your relationship? How many times would she play this card to get a reaction out of you in the future?

So what should you do? What do you say to your girlfriend when she sits you down and gently explains that she'd like the freedom to start seeing other people?

Well, you give it to her. You give her that freedom, and at the same time you let her know you're giving yourself the same type of freedom.

Why? Because the one thing your girlfriend doesn't want is for you both to start seeing other people.

This is one of those cases where you have to let someone go in order to get them back. And this means letting them go knowing full well that getting YOU back might just be impossible for them.

So essentially, you tell your girlfriend:

"See other people? Yeah, sure. That sounds awesome."

Don't say it sarcastically, and make sure you don't sound bitter. It should be almost as if you've been looking for this 'out' for a long time. As if the relationship has been dragging on you, and her suggestion is like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders.

That's when you take her hand, put both of your hands over it, and tell her:

"You're right, there's definitely someone out there who would be better for both of us. Good luck."

And guess what? That's IT. You walk away. You don't look back, and you don't race home to be the first person to change your Facebook status to 'single'.

Instead, you handle things maturely. You break ALL contact, and you don't entertain any type of phone calls, emails, or text-messages from your ex girlfriend. She's suggested seeing other people and you've gone one step further and broken up with her.

This isn't what she wanted or expected. Your girlfriend expected some type of resistance (to show that you still love her), and some type of discussion (so you could potentially talk her out of seeing some other guy). But you did neither. She mentioned she smelled fire, and you took the emergency exit. She looked up, and all she saw was the door slamming shut behind you.

THIS is how you need to handle any potential breakup scenario with your girlfriend. By controlling the situation and maintaining your position, you don't lose any of the power or hold you still had over her during the relationship.

By NOT reacting the way she expects, you're putting your girlfriend in an awkward and opposite situation... one where she doesn't know what to do.

She could go on to potentially see other guys, but she now knows for SURE that you won't be sitting around waiting for her in case things don't work out. In fact, she could end up in a failed rebound relationship, turn to look for you, and find you with a totally new girlfriend.

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