Okay, so you remember what the beginning of your relationship was like as a loving couple. But do you remember how you were?
Do you remember how you talked to your ex girlfriend? How you acted around her? All the forgotten little things you did for her, and the basic way you treated her as a person?
Every relationship goes through ups and downs, and over time it's easy to slack off. Chances are that the way you handled your ex in the beginning of the relationship was a lot different than how you were handling her toward the end, when she finally broke up with you.
Emotionally, you were closer. Mentally, you were a lot more forgiving. The little things that bother you now weren't so important when you first met your girlfriend, and you were probably a lot more tolerant overall.
And physically, what did you look like? What did you smell like? How did you outwardly present yourself, and what kind of projection did you put forth?
All of these things matter to your ex girlfriend.
These are the things missing from your current relationship.
Knowing all this, it's time to concentrate on the things you CAN change.
Going no-contact with your ex doesn't mean sitting there with your thumb up your ass. There's a whole laundry list of positive adjustments you can make that will better your position, and improve your chances for a successful reunion when you do finally meet up with your ex girlfriend.
Clearing Your Head
Above everything else, a clear mind is the most important attribute when it comes to winning someone back. You won't ever get your girlfriend to love you the way she used to unless you've got a clear mind and a level-headed approach to any future contact.
Spending some time alone is good.
Obsessing over your ex, is not.
Yes, it's hard to get past a breakup. Your mind will play all sorts of games with you, and you'll want to think about your ex girlfriend constantly.
At the same time however, this is dangerous and counterproductive. You need to avoid obsessing over your breakup, and you need to keep strong.
Getting outside is always a good idea. Being around friends is another. The more distractions and activities you can fill your life with, the easier it will be to get your mind off the breakup.
A clear head leads to good decision-making. When you're thinking straight you'll make less mistakes. In the end, this will make getting back together with your ex a whole lot easier.
Working on Your Physical Appearance
Want your ex girlfriend to love you again? Make sure you look the part. Your physical appearance was probably very important to you when you first hooked up with your girlfriend, and you can bet your ass it was important to her. It only stands to reason that getting her back will require you looking and feeling your absolute best.
DO go to the gym, work out, and get fit.
DON'T wear a purple shirt
and sky blue wristbands.
If you've let yourself go at all since you started dating, now's the time to shape up. Exercise is awesome for a breakup. It will make you look better, feel better, and all that exertion will release endorphins necessary to clear our your head and keep you from thinking about the breakup for a while.
So yes, hit the gym. Work out. Lift weights. Tone up.
Can't afford the gym? Run. Get outside, and start sweating. You'll feel better, look better, and get tan - all for free.
Remember: You're not looking to transform yourself into a ripped meathead (unless your girlfriend fell in love with you as a ripped meathead), but you are looking to improve yourself in both body and mind. When you look good and feel good, you're going to be in a much better place mentally.
And when you're just starting to look your best? Hit the store, and buy some sharp new clothes. The more of a fresh new start you can give yourself, the better off you'll be. Your goal is easy: The next time your ex girlfriend sees you, you want to knock her socks off.
In the end, it all comes down to simple logic:
You CAN'T get your ex back by giving her something she already threw away.
You CAN get her back by giving her something better than she had before... and by bringing back the guy you were when she first fell in love with you.